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“Frequently avoidance of the present leads to idealization of the future... When an event does not live up to your expectations you can get out of the depression by idealizing again. Do not let this vicious circle become your life-style. Interrupt it now with some strategic present-moment fulfillment.”

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Book:Your erroneous zones
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Your erroneous zones

This self-help book delves into the various erroneous zones that individuals often fall into, offering insights and strategies for overcoming these behavioral and cognitive challenges. more

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