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“When I ask French parents what they most want for their children, they say things like "to feel comfortable in their own skin" and "to find their path in the world." They want their kids to develop their own tastes and opinions. In fact, French parents worry if their kids are too docile. They want them to have character. But they believe that children can achieve these goals only if they respect boundaries and have self-control. So alongside character, there has to be cadre.”

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Book:Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting
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Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting

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Pamela Druckerman
Pamela Druckerman

Pamela Druckerman is an American writer born in 1970. Her works primarily revolve around themes such as parenting, family life, and social culture, known for their unique perspective and in-depth research. more

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