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“—¿No tenés amigos de infancia? —No me casé con los amigos de la infancia. Si ahora tengo poco discernimiento para elegirlos, ¿cómo habrán sido las equivocaciones de mis primeros años? Las amistades de infancia son erróneas, y no se puede ser fiel al erro indefinidamente.”

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Book:La furia
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Childhood
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