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The Thirteenth Tale

A gripping tale that intertwines the lives of a reclusive author and a young bookseller, delving into the mysteries of a long-lost manuscript and the secrets of a tragic past. more

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Diane Setterfield
Diane Setterfield

Diane Setterfield is a British author born on August 22, 1964. Her works are known for their unique narrative style and profound insights into human nature. Her debut novel, 'The Time Traveler's Wife,' published in 2007, quickly gained popularity and critical acclaim, becoming an international bestseller. more

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