“...At the same time, something odd was happening to my ability to converse. I had always enjoyed engaging in arguments, regardless of topic. I regarded them as a sort of game (not that this is in any way unique). Suddenly, however, I couldn't talk—more accurately, I couldn't stand listening to myself talk . I started to hear a “voice” inside my head, commenting on my opinions. Every time I said something, it said something— something critical. The voice employed a standard refrain, delivered in a somewhat bored and matter-of-fact tone:
You don't believe that.
That isn't true.
You don't believe that.
That isn't true.
The “voice” applied such comments to almost every phrase I spoke.
I couldn't understand what to make of this. I knew the source of the commentary was part of me, but this knowledge only increased my confusion. Which part, precisely, was me— the talking part or the criticizing part ? If it was the talking part, then what was the criticizing part? If it was the criticizing part—well, then: how could virtually everything I said be untrue? In my ignorance and confusion, I decided to experiment. I tried only to say things that my internal reviewer would pass unchallenged. This meant that I really had to listen to what I was saying, that I spoke much less often, and that I would frequently stop, midway through a sentence, feel embarrassed, and reformulate my thoughts. I soon noticed that I felt much less agitated and more confident when I only said things that the “voice” did not object to. This came as a definite relief. My experiment had been a success; I was the criticizing part. Nonetheless, it took me a long time to reconcile myself to the idea that almost all my thoughts weren't real, weren't true—or, at least, weren't mine.
All the things I “believed” were things I thought sounded good, admirable, respectable, courageous. They weren't my things, however—I had stolen them. Most of them I had taken from books. Having “understood” them, abstractly, I presumed I had a right to them—presumed that I could adopt them, as if they were mine: presumed that they were me . My head was stuffed full of the ideas of others; stuffed full of arguments I could not logically refute. I did not know then that an irrefutable argument is not necessarily true, nor that the right to identify with certain ideas had to be earned.”
Source: Maps of Meaning: The Architecture of Belief
“It calls to mind a famous line of George Carlin's: "Have you ever noticed that everyone driving than you is an idiot, and anyone going faster than you is a maniac?”
Source: Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want
“Do not think a warren of a mind will harbor only rabbits of thought.”
“...when he witnessed his first struggle (against another prisoner) - during which the cell chief urged everyone to "help" the man under fire - he thought to himself:
"So this is the way of the Communists - using good words to do bad things”
Source: Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism: A Study of 'brainwashing' in China
“Why did we create a society that not only forces most people to work to live but also makes even the most privileged feel like they have to work desperately hard all the time? We created a mythology that regards the need to reach the top of the mountain because it’s there as a measure of human worth, but when we get there, there’s always another mountain, and another one after that. Most of us live our whole lives either struggling to stay on solid ground or climbing mountain after mountain.”
Source: Thinking 101: How to Reason Better to Live Better
“MYTHS ABOUT SUICIDE
1. Those who talk about suicide are not at risk of suicide.
2. All suicidal people are depressed or mentally ill.
3. Suicide occurs without warning.
4. Asking about suicide ‘plants’ the idea in someone’s head.
5. Suicidal people clearly want to die.
6. When someone becomes suicidal they will always remain suicidal.
7. Suicide is inherited.
8. Suicidal behaviour is motivated by attention-seeking.
9. Suicide is caused by a single factor.
10. Suicide cannot be prevented.
11. Only people of a particular social class die by suicide.
12. Improvement in emotional state means lessened suicide risk.
13. Thinking about suicide is rare.
14. People who attempt suicide by a low-lethality means are not serious about killing themselves.”
Source: When It Is Darkest: Why People Die by Suicide and What We Can Do to Prevent It
“Beck [a psychiatrist who developed Cognitive behavioral therapy] noticed a common pattern of beliefs, which he called the "cognitive triad" of depression: "I'm no good," "My world is bleak," and "My future is hopeless."
Many people experience one or two of these thoughts fleetingly, but depressed people tend to hold all three beliefs in a stable and enduring psychological structure.”
Source: The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting up a Generation for Failure
“– but what exactly do we mean by happiness? Is happiness a short-term state (‘I’m happy when I’m playing tennis’) or a longer-term condition (‘I’m a happy person’)? The very thing that makes one person extremely happy (going to a football match, reading a book, being alone...) might indeed induce a state of extreme unhappiness in another. But happiness, however defined, is something generally considered a positive state worth cultivating.”
Source: A Practical Guide to Happiness in Adults on the Autism Spectrum: A Positive Psychology Approach
“-success does not bring long-term happiness, but that being happy can increase the likelihood of success.”
Source: A Practical Guide to Happiness in Adults on the Autism Spectrum: A Positive Psychology Approach
“It was a psychoanalyst colleague, Dr. Stanley Coen, who suggested in the course of our working on a medical paper together that the role of the pain syndrome was not to express the hidden emotions but to prevent them from becoming conscious. This, he explained, is what is referred to as a defense. In other words, the pain of TMS (or the discomfort of a peptic ulcer, of colitis, of tension headache, or the terror of an asthmatic attack) is created in order to distract the attention of the sufferer from what is going on in the emotional sphere. It is intended to focus one's attention on the body instead of the mind. It is a response to the need to keep those terrible, antisocial, unkind, childish, angry, selfish feelings (the prisoners) from becoming conscious. It follows from this that far from being a physical disorder in the usual sense, TMS is really part of a psychological process. (page 56)”
Source: Healing Back Pain