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“When we find ourselves reacting to how friends or partners come at us we show that we are vulnerable to their feelings and actions. This is a sign of intimacy, not weakness. When we then run, the intimacy runs off too. When we stay to work things out, intimacy can flourish. When we stay even though things aren't working, codependency takes over.”

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Book:亲密关系的重建
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亲密关系的重建

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David Richo
David Richo

David Richo is an American writer born in 1940. His works primarily focus on personal growth, spiritual cultivation, and interpersonal relationships, which are well-received by readers. more

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