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“[Robert] Jensen calls for an end to our current understanding of masculinity. He says, "We men can settle for being men, or we can strive to be human beings." What's funny is that that statement essentially echoes the same hope I have for women: that we can start to see ourselves, and encourage men to see us, as more than just the sum of our sexual parts: not as virgins or whores, as mothers or girlfriends, or as existing only in relation to men, but as people with independent desires, hopes and abilities.”

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Book:The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women
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The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women

This book delves into the effects of societal expectations surrounding virginity on young women in America, examining the psychological, emotional, and societal consequences. more

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Jessica Valenti
Jessica Valenti

Jessica Valenti, born on November 1, 1978, is an American writer whose work primarily focuses on gender, politics, and social justice issues. Her notable works include 'The Purity Myth: Challenging the Sexual Orthodoxy of the American Right'. more

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