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“Because [self-esteem] offers indiscriminate affirmation unconnected to genuine accomplishment, self-esteem can foster narcissism, diminish empathy, and stoke aggression. It can also promote bias toward one's own group and prejudice toward other groups. Because self-esteem is comparative, to assess myself favorably, I often must denigrate others. The most powerful and promising alternative [to self-esteem] is called "self-compassion". Self-compassion encourages us to take the middle road in handling negative emotions - not suppressing them, but not exaggerating or over identifying with them either. Self-compassion delivers the benefits of self-esteem without its drawbacks.”

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Book:The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward
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Daniel H. Pink
Daniel H. Pink

Daniel H. Pink is an American author known for his research on work, motivation, and human behavior. His work delves into the ways humans work in modern society and how to inspire creativity in individuals and teams. more

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