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“What can appear to us twenty-first century people to be an unhealthy fascination with death and mourning in Victorian culture may in fact have been a source of powerful mental resilience. They were 'in touch' with birth and death. Today grieving and mourning are perceived as weakness, almost sickness, to be conquered and overcome. It might be better to accept bereavement, as the Victorians did, as an integral part of life.”

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Queen Victoria: Daughter, Wife, Mother, Widow

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Lucy Worsley
Lucy Worsley

Lucy Worsley is a British historian known for her deep research into the Victorian era, particularly focusing on women's history and social change. Her books and television programs have gained widespread popularity, making history more vivid and accessible to the public. more

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