“How can dialogue be fruitful? The answer to this question is the most important thing in this treatise because many of us now realise that a new method must be employed in training children and interacting with them. Many now believe more in holding consultations in family life, and in dialogues and negotiations; but because they lack proper knowledge and expertise regarding the principles and morals to be observed in doing this, their attempts at holding dialogue often end with quarrels, arguments and divergence of views. This is why you would all recall many situations in which the wisest person in a family would say, “I hope we do not discuss this topic any further for now, so that nerves are not frayed or we end up disagreeing and each one of us gets up and goes into his room.” FamilyCommunicationParentingDialogueAbdul Karim BakkarFamily Interactions Book:Family Interactions Source: Family Interactions
“Dialogue is the interaction of souls before it can be the interaction of brains. And dialogue within a family is much more difficult than that between two mates at school or two men negotiating a business transaction. The reasons for this difficulty are many, among which is the fact that the home is a place for spontaneous behavior where the parties to the dialogue know one another very well with each one having formed what appears to be the final opinion about every other person. The father knows his son’s aspirations as well as his weak points, and having tried unsuccessfully to help him several times before now, he cannot see why he should dialogue with him. The mother also thinks that her husband has passed a decree on a matter, and knowing him well that he does not reverse his decisions easily, she thinks that dialogue with him will only raise tension and bring no benefit.” FamilyCommunicationParentingDialogueAbdul Karim BakkarFamily Interactions Book:Family Interactions Source: Family Interactions