“Development is directed toward the inner world if children receive the kind of love that enables them to experience helplessness without feeling alone. If this is the case, helplessness will not be perceived as a total abandonment or condemnation but as a state through pain and sorrow to new strength rather than to destruction. This sort of experience will produce a self that does not perceive helplessness as a deadly threat but as a possibility for new integration and new beginnings.” Childhood TraumaChild DevelopmentSelf HateGroupthinkConsensus Trance Book:The Insanity of Normality: Toward Understanding Human Destructiveness Source: The Insanity of Normality: Toward Understanding Human Destructiveness