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“Development is directed toward the inner world if children receive the kind of love that enables them to experience helplessness without feeling alone. If this is the case, helplessness will not be perceived as a total abandonment or condemnation but as a state through pain and sorrow to new strength rather than to destruction. This sort of experience will produce a self that does not perceive helplessness as a deadly threat but as a possibility for new integration and new beginnings.”

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Arno Gruen
Arno Gruen

Arno Gruen was a renowned psychologist, born on May 26, 1923, and passed away on October 20, 2015. He had a profound impact on the field of psychotherapy with his extensive research and practical experience, particularly known for his unique insights into the therapeutic relationship between psychotherapists and patients. more

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