“There is an art to grieving. To grieve well the loss of anyone or anything--a parent, a love, a child, an era, a home, a job--is a creative act. It takes attention and patience and courage. But many of us do not know how to grieve. We were never taught, and we don't see examples of full-bodied grieving around us. Our culture favors the fast-food model of mourning--get over it quick and get back to work; affix the bandage of "closure" and move on.” KnowsWellsChildrenArtHomeJobsMovingCultureParentLossAttentionKnow HowCreativeExampleTaughtModelsFavorsErasGrievingMourningOver ItGet BackGet OverFast FoodClosureBack To WorkBandages Author:Elizabeth Lesser
“when people go away, or when we leave the places we love, or something we treasure goes out of our life - I have always noticed that before it happens - this leaving, this parting - when we think about it beforehand we are overwhelmed with sadness at the loss to come. ... the most unbearable sense of loss, the worst homesickness of all, so I have found, is this loss and sickness we feel beforehand, before we ever leave home.” PeopleThinkingFeelsHomeHappensFoundLossOur LivesSadnessWorstLeavingTreasureSicknessGoing AwayOverwhelmedUnbearablePartingHomesicknessHis Loss Author:Nan Fairbrother
“the sudden violent dispossession accompanying a refugee flight is much more than the loss of a permanent home and a traditional occupation, or than the parting from close friends and familiar places. It is also the death of the person one has become in a particular context, and every refugee must be his or her own midwife at the painful process of rebirth.” PersonsHomeProcessLossParticularPainfulViolentFamiliarTraditionalFlightPermanentOccupationRefugeeRebirthPartingClose FriendsMidwifeFamiliar Places Author:Dervla Murphy