“A researcher at the university of michigan found that, when asked to talk about good sex, college men are more likely than women to talk about pleasure while the women are more likely to use their partner's satisfaction to measure their own. It's not suprising that young women feel powerful when they feel 'hot'. It's presented to them over and over as a precondition to success. But the truth is that 'hot' tells girls that appearing sexually confident is more important than actually being confident. And because of that, as often as not, the confidence that hot confers comes off with their clothes.” Womens SexualityHot Girls Book:Don't Call Me Princess: Essays on Girls, Women, Sex, and Life Source: Don't Call Me Princess: Essays on Girls, Women, Sex, and Life