“Essentially, if our secrets are secrets because we are told to be ashamed, then we must share them. There is no shame in being sad or struggling or trying to heal. We are all desperate, depraved and sacred. We are all terrible and brillIant. I can list all the things that can make a girl want to escape her own body (re: patriarchy). But I’d rather list all the things that make me want to stay in my body, and adorn it like a home, rub oils into my skin, tell it how sorry I am for trying to leave, for trying to hurt it into submission” IfsWantTryingI CanHomeBodyGirlHurtSecretStruggleShareTerribleSkinsShameSacredSorryOilBrilliantListsHealDesperateAshamedPatriarchySubmissionDepravedBeing Sad Author:Warsan Shire
“Women not only get violated, but then we take on the struggle to end it too... As a man, how could the destruction of women be anything to you but devastating? Think about the fact that the women being hurt are your mothers, daughters, sisters.” ThinkingMenEndsFactsMotherHurtStruggleDaughterDestructionMother DaughterBeing Hurt Author:Eve Ensler
“The mere existence of an additional child or children in the family could signify Less. Less time alone with parents. Less attention for hurts and disappointments. Less approval for accomplishments. . . . No wonder children struggle so fiercely to be first or best. No wonder they mobilize all their energy to have more or most. Or better still, all.” FirstsChildrenStillsEnergyParentHurtExistenceAttentionWonderStruggleMereDisappointmentAccomplishmentApprovalSiblingMe AloneRivalryAlone TimeSibling Rivalry Author:Adele Faber
“I don't struggle to forgive people. I find it quite easy to forgive people for the harms that they have inflicted on me. What I do find challenging is to forgive people for the harms they inflict on my daughters and family. So, I find it challenging when I see somebody else experience hurt. I also look at my children and family and then I realize, I don't stand inside their skin and that is for me a forgiveness practice I still need to engage in.” PeopleNeedsLooksChildrenStillsEasyRealizingChallengesHurtPracticeStruggleDaughterSkinsForgivingHarmMy ChildrenMy Daughter Author:Desmond Tutu
“Things would hurt me in a big way because I didn't seem to have a very thick layer of skin, but this also meant I had extreme empathy for other people. I think perhaps that's what makes my songs hit home for some people, because I've tried to see the world through their eyes and I recognise- even just for a second- that we all ultimately are struggling with the same things.” PeopleThinkingWorldWayHomeBigsSeemsEyeSongHurtStruggleEmpathySkinsExtremesThickLayersRecogniseHurt Me Author:Missy Higgins
“Something seems wrong to most people engaged in struggle when they see more people hurt on their own side than on the other side. They are used to reading this as an indication of defeat, and a complete mental readjustment is required of them. Within the new terms of struggle, victory has nothing to do with their being able to give more punishment than they take (quite the reverse); victory has nothing to do with their being able to punish the other at all; it has to do simply with being able, finally, to make the other move... Vengeance is not the point; change is.” PeopleGivingSeemsAbleMovingUsedReadingSidesTermHurtStruggleVictoryDefeatPunishmentEngagedReverseVengeanceIndication Author:Barbara Deming
“You know it's going to hurt, you know you are going to struggle, but you Have to work on your form, stay upright, the sooner you get there the sooner the pain is over.” KnowsPainFormHurtStruggle Author:Meb Keflezighi
“There have been many claims that [U.S.] sanctions have hurt Burma economically, but I did not agree with that point of view. If you look at reports by the IMF, for example, they make quite clear that the economic impact on Burma has not been that great. But I think the political impact has been very great and that has helped us in our struggle for democracy.” IfsThinkingLooksHas BeensPoliticalHurtViewsStruggleDemocracyClearEconomicExampleClaimsAgreeImpactPoint Of ViewReportsSanctionsBurmaImf Author:Aung San Suu Kyi
“People always ask, "How do you get in the mind of the teen reader?" I think all human beings have these common threads. We struggle with the same things. We desire love and attachment. We have to sort out how much we want to be attached and be independent, how we manage need and being needed and being hurt. These are things that begin when we're - how old? Then in those teen years we start to really feel them.” PeopleThinkingMindDesireHurtCommonStruggleIndependentManageBeing Hurt Author:Deb Caletti