“Children who are not encouraged to do, to try, to explore, to master, and to risk failure, often feel helpless and inadequate. Over-controlled by anxious, fearful parents, these children often become anxious and fearful themselves. This makes it difficult for them to mature. Many never outgrow the need for ongoing parental guidance and control. As a result, their parents continue to invade, manipulate, and frequently dominate their lives.” NeedsFeelsTryingChildrenParentDifficultResultsRiskMastersGuidanceMatureControlledAnxiousFearfulHelplessManipulateOngoingInadequateParentalParental Guidance Author:Susan Forward
“If you try to impose a rigid discipline while teaching a child or a chimp you are working against the boundless curiosity and need for relaxed play that make learning possible in the first place... learning cannot be controlled; it is out of control by design. Learning emerges spontaneously, it proceeds in an individualistic and unpredictable way, and it achieves its goal in its own good time. Once triggered, learning will not stop--unless it is hijacked by conditioning.” IfsWayNeedsTryingFirstsChildrenPlayGoalTeachingAchieveDesignDisciplineCuriosityGood TimesControlledUnpredictableRelaxedConditioningBoundlessIndividualistic Author:Roger Fouts