“As we make the journey inward with our people, we will come to the next challenge to our compassion: those inner community members who have actively bought harm to the young ones inside. This is such tender territory, a place where we need to acknowledge the suffering our people have sustained without demonizing and alienating the ones who bought it, for they are now part of the ones in our care as well. This can be radical inclusiveness at its most healing, widening our joined windows of tolerance to truly accept every part.” HopeHealingRelationshipChildhood AbuseRestorative JusticeRadical InclusivenessWindow Of ToleranceDomestic Violence Recovery Book:The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships Source: The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships
“How do we be with the paradoxes our people bring? We can align with one side of the conundrum and dismiss the other in an effort to relieve the unsettling experience that the logically unresolvable contradiction brings to us and our people. However, if we do this, we are stepping away from our person's experience because he or she is living inside the paradox and can't move away. Staying present asks us to hold the full paradox within our own minds and bodies, to enter the suffering that entails. If we are able to do this and remain in a ventral state, it seems that something happens and we may be able to enter a state in which the paradox begins to reveal its value a little differently than ever before ... As we settled into this broader acceptance together, I believe we made room for the possibility of the arrival of a resolving third thing in its own time.” TherapyParadoxRadical AcceptancePolyvagal TherapyVentralWindow Of ToleranceInnate Mental Health Book:The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships Source: The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships