“…did it make a difference if the remark never got back to the person about whom it was made? She thought not. The harm is done when the words are uttered: that is the act of belittlement, the act of diminishing the other, and it is that act which would cause pain to the victim. You said that about me? The wrong was located in the making of the cruel remark, rather than in the pain it might later cause.” CrueltyAlexander Mccall SmithBelittlementCruel WordsWords That Wound Book:The Novel Habits of Happiness Source: The Novel Habits of Happiness