“Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly-without attacking others.” MeanDoeFeelingsAttitudeWillingAttackingAssertiveBeing Assertive Author:Albert Ellis
“The goal...is not to change your desires and wishes but to persuade you to stop demanding that you absolutely must have what you wish-from yourself, from others, and from the world. You can by all means keep your wishes, preferences, and desires, but unless you prefer to remain needlessly anxious, not your grandiose demands.” WorldMeanDesireWishGoalDemandAnxiousPreferenceGrandiose Author:Albert Ellis
“Reality is not so much what happens to us; rather, it is how we think about those events that create the reality we experience. In a very real sense, this means that we each create the reality in which we live.” ThinkingMeanRealRealityHappensEvents Author:Albert Ellis
“We'd better work hard on getting rid of that must - Other people must do what I want them to do!" It's what makes people hostile, nasty, mean and combative, and it leads to feuds, wars and genocide. We'd better do something about that.” PeopleWantMeanWarHardHard WorkGenocideNastyHostileFeuds Author:Albert Ellis
“For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency. If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic. People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world. Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional. The art of love is largely the art of persistence.” PeopleIfsMenWorldMeanArtRealSelfBeliefLove IsResultsKnownSelf EsteemRationalEsteemPersistenceUpsetMotiveSicknessWorking ItReal WorldIrrationalDependencyConditional Author:Albert Ellis
“If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.” IfsMeanWorking ItIrrational Author:Albert Ellis
