“Fat is a barrier, a bellicose statement to others that, to some, justifies hostility in kind. The world says to the fat person, "Your fatness is an affront to me, so we have the right to treat you as offensively as you appear." Fat is not merely viewed as another type of tissue, but as a diagnostic sign, a personal statement, and a measure of personality. Too little fat and we see you as being antisocial, fearful and sexless. Too much fat and we see you as slothful, stupid, and sexually hung up.” WorldKindLittlesPersonsToo MuchStupidFoodTypePersonalityTreatsStatementsFatsBarriersJustifyFearfulHungHostilitySexuallyTissuesAntisocialAffrontFatnessPersonal Statement Author:Albert Ellis
“In a sense, the religious person must have no real views of his own and it is presumptuous of him, in fact, to have any. In regard to sex-love affairs, to marriage and family relations, to business, to politics, and to virtually everything else that is important in his life, he must try to discover what his god and his clergy would like him to do; and he must primarily do their bidding.” TryingPersonsImportantRealFactsSexReligiousViewsRelationRegardAffairLove AffairClergyBiddingPresumptuousReligious PersonMarriage And FamilySex Love Author:Albert Ellis
“People are terrified of other people or difficult projects because they tell themselves that they could fail or be rejected. Failure can lead to sorrow, regret, frustration and annoyance - all healthy, negative feelings without which people couldn't exist. But then they add, "I absolutely must succeed and must be loved by significant persons, and if I don't, it's terrible and I'm no good." Those are irrational beliefs. As long as people keep them, they'll be terrified of life and will put themselves down when they get rejected.” PeopleIfsPersonsLongFeelingsBeliefDifficultFailingRegretTerribleSorrowHealthySucceedProjectsNegativeAddSignificantFrustrationRejectedIrrationalTerrifiedAnnoyanceNegative FeelingsIrrational Beliefs Author:Albert Ellis
“The emotionally sound person should be able to take risks, to ask himself what he really would like to do in life, and then to try to do this, even though he has to risk defeat or failure. He should be adventurous (though not necessarily foolhardy); be willing to try almost anything once, just to see how he likes it; and look forward to some breaks in his usual life routines.” ShouldTryingLooksPersonsAbleAsksSoundBreakRiskWillingDefeatLikesUsualAdventurousFoolhardyWilling To Try Author:Albert Ellis
“Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.” PersonsValuesFailureIntrinsic Value Author:Albert Ellis
“Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.” LoveHumansPersonsAcceptingAliveLove YouAcceptanceTraitsLovableUnconditional Acceptance Author:Albert Ellis
“The individual is taught that there is nothing that he as a total person is to feel ashamed of or self-hating for.” FeelsPersonsSelfHateIndividualTaughtTherapyAshamedCognitive Behavioral TherapyCognitive Therapy Author:Albert Ellis
“The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less chance there is that he will be a happy, healthy, or law-abiding citizen. He will become a compulsive wrong-doer.” FeelsPersonsLawChanceCitizensHealthyGuiltGuiltyAbidingMiscellaneousDoersLaw Abiding Citizen Author:Albert Ellis
