“The notion that I might be asexual seemed laughable. [...] Never did it occur to me that my friends and I might be using the language of desire differently. For them, a word like "hot" could indicate a physical pull of the type Jane had described. For me, "hot" conveyed an admiration of excellent bone structure. Their sexual encounters were often motivated by libido; I didn't even know that I lacked a libido.” QueernessAsexualityAce Author:Angela Chen
“It is a failure of society if anyone needs to say “I have a partner” to turn someone down, and it is a failure of society if anyone needs to invoke a sexual orientation to avoid unwanted sex because saying no doesn’t do the job.” Saying NoUnwanted Advances Book:Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex Source: Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex