“It is a failure of society if anyone needs to say “I have a partner” to turn someone down, and it is a failure of society if anyone needs to invoke a sexual orientation to avoid unwanted sex because saying no doesn’t do the job.” Saying NoUnwanted Advances Book:Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex Source: Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex