“It may comfort you to know that if your child reaches the age of eleven or twelve and you have a good bond or relationship, no matter how dramatic adolescence becomes, you children will probably turn out all right and want some form of connection to you in adulthood.” IfsKnowsWantMayChildrenMatterAgeFormTurnsComfortConnectionsOur ChildrenYour ChildrenDramaticTwelveAdulthoodAdolescenceEleven Author:Charlotte Sophia Kasl
“One of the important things to learn about parenting is that the more you worry about a child, the less the child will worry abouthim- or herself....instead of worrying, watch with fascination and wonder as your child's life unfolds, and help the child take responsibility for his or her own life.” ChildrenImportantHelpingResponsibilityWonderWatchesWorryOur ChildrenImportant ThingsYour ChildrenTaking ResponsibilityFascination Author:Charlotte Sophia Kasl
“You can make lots of mistakes, but if you give children avenues for creativity and joy, they will have resources to carry them through. For example, if cooking together, reading, listening to music, coloring, participating in sports, or taking a walk in the woods are paired with pleasure and closeness, throughout life doing these things will kindle old feelings of happiness an/or comfort.” IfsGivingChildrenFeelingsTogetherJoyReadingSportsWalksPleasureMistakeCreativityExampleListeningComfortResourcesCookingWoodsListening To MusicAvenuesParticipatingClosenessKindlesWalk In The WoodsOld Feelings Author:Charlotte Sophia Kasl
“If I could summarize my suggestions to parents over the past twenty-five years it would be: worry less, criticize less, preach less, listen more, have more fun, be more honest with your own feelings, develop your own joys and friendships, and don't sweat the small stuff (which is nearly everything). The goal is not to be a perfect parent, because no such thing exists. The hope is to be a good enough parent so that your child leaves home a responsible adult who can take care of him or herself.” IfsYearsChildrenEnoughFeelingsHomeWould BeCarePastJoyFunStuffParentGoalPerfectWorryFiveHonestAdultsTwentiesResponsibleOur ChildrenTake CareYour ChildrenFive YearsIf I CouldCriticizeGood EnoughSweatSuggestionsOver The PastTwenty FiveSmall StuffSweat The Small StuffWorry LessPerfect Parents Author:Charlotte Sophia Kasl
“A life-long blessing for children is to fill them with warm memories of times together. Happy memories become treasures in the heart to pull out on the tough days of adulthood.” HeartChildrenLongTogetherMemoriesBlessingToughWarmTreasureAdulthoodLong LifeGood MemoriesTime TogetherHappy MemoriesTough Day Author:Charlotte Sophia Kasl
“Whether or not you have children yourself, you are a parent to the next generation. If we can only stop thinking of children as individual property and think of them as the next generation, then we can realize we all have a role to play.” IfsThinkingChildrenPlayNextIndividualParentRealizingResponsibilityRolesGenerationsEthicsPropertyParentingParenthoodRole ModelsNext GenerationFuture GenerationBeing A ParentRutsBeing A Role Model Author:Charlotte Sophia Kasl
“Caring for children is a dance between setting appropriate limits as caretakers and avoiding unnecessary power struggles that result in unhappiness.” InspirationalChildrenResultsStruggleLimitsDanceCaringSettingSettingsAppropriateUnhappinessUnnecessaryAvoidingChild CarePower StruggleCaretakers Author:Charlotte Sophia Kasl
“Sometimes we adopt certain beliefs when we're children and use them automatically when we become adults, without ever checking them out against reality. This brings to mind the story of the woman who always cut off the end of the turkey when she put it in the oven. Her daughter asked her why, and her mother responded, "I don't know. My mother always did it." Then she went and asked her mother, who said, "I don't know. My mother always did it." The she went and asked her grandmother, who said, "The oven wasn't big enough."” KnowsMindChildrenSaidEndsSometimesEnoughStoriesUseBigsRealityMotherCertainBeliefCuttingDaughterAdultsGrandmotherTurkeysOvens Author:Charlotte Sophia Kasl
