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“If I could summarize my suggestions to parents over the past twenty-five years it would be: worry less, criticize less, preach less, listen more, have more fun, be more honest with your own feelings, develop your own joys and friendships, and don't sweat the small stuff (which is nearly everything). The goal is not to be a perfect parent, because no such thing exists. The hope is to be a good enough parent so that your child leaves home a responsible adult who can take care of him or herself.”

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Charlotte Sophia Kasl
Charlotte Sophia Kasl

Charlotte Sophia Kasl, born in 1938, is an accomplished psychologist. Her research focuses on organizational psychology and leadership development, offering profound insights into organizational behavior and team dynamics. more

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