“He was making her feel small and absurdly petulant and, worse yet, she suspected he was right. She always suspected he was right. For a brief irrational moment, she wished she could walk away from him. Then she wished, more rationally, that she could love him without needing him. Need gave him power without his trying; need was the choicelessness she often felt around him.” NeedsFeelsTryingMomentsFeltWalksIrrational Author:Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
“There's something very lazy about the way you have loved him blindly for so long without ever criticizing him. You've never even accepted that the man is ugly,' Kainene said. There was a small smile on her face and then she was laughing, and Olanna could not help but laugh too, because it was not what she had wanted to hear and because hearing it had made her feel better.” MenWayFeelsLongMadeSaidHelpingWantedFacesLaughingUglyHearingAcceptedLazyCriticizeFeel Better Book:Half of a Yellow Sun Source: Half of a Yellow Sun
“She rested her head against his and felt, for the first time, what she would often feel with him: a self-affection. He made her like herself.” FeelsFirstsMadeSelfFeltFirst TimeAffection Author:Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
“If you don't understand, ask questions. If you're uncomfortable about asking questions, say you are uncomfortable about asking questions and then ask anyway. It's easy to tell when a question is coming from a good place. Then listen some more. Sometimes people just want to feel heard. Here's to possibilities of friendship and connection and understanding.” PeopleIfsWantFeelsSometimesAsksEasyUnderstandingHeardPossibilityConnectionsAskingUncomfortableAsking QuestionsGood Place Book:Americanah Source: Americanah
“She rested her head against his and felt, for the first time, what she would often feel with him: a self-affection. He made her like herself. With him, she was at ease; her skin felt as though it was her right size.. It seemed so natural, to talk to him about odd things. She had never done that before. The trust, so sudden and yet so complete, and the intimacy, frightened her.. But now she could think only of all the things she yet wanted to tell him, wanted to do with him.” ThinkingFeelsFirstsMadeSelfDoneWantedFeltNaturalFirst TimeSkinsSizeAffectionIntimacyEaseOddFrightenedOdd Things Author:Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
“Is love this misguided need to have you beside me most of the time? Is love this safety I feel in our silences? Is it this belonging, this completeness?” NeedsFeelsSilenceSafetyBelongingSilence IsMisguidedCompletenessMost Romantic Book:Half of a Yellow Sun Source: Half of a Yellow Sun
“We teach girls shame; close your legs, cover yourself, we make them feel as though by being born female they're already guilty of something.” FeelsGirlBornTeachFemaleShameLegsGuilty Author:Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
“I think my first general rule is that most of my experiences are not that interesting. It's usually other people's experiences. It's not that entirely conscious. Somebody tells me a story or, you know, repeats an anecdote that somebody else told them and I just feel like I have to write it down so I don't forget - that means for me, something made it fiction-worthy. Interesting things never happen to me, so maybe two or three times when they do, I have to use them, so I write them down.” PeopleThinkingKnowsFeelsWritingFirstsMeanMadeTwoStoriesUseHappensThreeForgetInterestingFictionConsciousWorthyMade ItRepeatsThree TimesInteresting ThingsAnecdotes Author:Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
