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From Seeking To Radiating Love: Evolution is unavoidable in the process of overpowering doubt

Book by Elelwani Anita Ravhuhali · 33 quotes · Self Love, Emotional Absence, Self Esteem

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“Often, deceitful and unfaithful individuals seem to deny those they have claimed to love any form of clarity. You are left hanging, often having to fend for yourself on where the truth lies. It seems they operate under the assumption that those in their lives will eventually figure a way out, that they will somehow read other people’s minds and know where they stand.”

“What I don’t realize is that I am battling with pain. I have not yet found a way to navigate my way around it. It’s just there, living in my mind and heart. I don’t know what to do with pain, and I keep talking about it, hoping it leaves someday.”

“It may feel terrifying to experience the shame and fear of rejection, but it is also a liberating moment. It is a moment where you allow yourself to feel every inch of pain that you avoided by building these crumbling walls. It’s the pain we were supposed to feel and let go, finally leaving our bodies.”

“I combed through my body, my mind, searching for any residual remains of heartbreaking memories, making peace with them, and often forgiving myself for the role I played. I emptied myself of pain and welcomed new love. I painted it away, I walked it away, I hiked it away, I sang it away, I traveled it away, and I lived my life discovering every reason to pour love within myself. I did everything I could to unclog every inch of pain that may have been left in my body and in my mind.”

“The effort you put into repairing and contending in the relationships, turn that around into yourself and begin asking yourself: “why do I find it okay to be mistreated.?”. “Why am I so comfortable with being discarded like I don’t matter?” “Why do I find it okay to suffer for love?” These questions will lead you to a place that may frighten you.” Excerpt From: Elelwani Anita Ravhuhali. “From Seeking to Radiating Love”. Apple Books.”

“When I constantly beg someone to treat me right, love and respect me, I am projecting the kind of love I wish to receive and know I deserve, but I have somehow allowed my limitations to inform me that I need to crawl on my knees, appealing for this love.”

“Sometimes, what they teach you is absurd, and if you don’t challenge it, you negligently make flawed decisions in life. And this is particularly towards girl children. When your mama taught you to pray when your partner is abusing and mistreating you, her decision was informed from her own flawed self-esteem.”

“Being a child from outside, caregivers aren’t invested in your emotional development as much. They assume that having a roof over your head and food is enough. You can’t get away with being honest in these kinds of conversations without someone attempting to throw in some positivity and gratitude. But it never is about that; children need their emotional needs watered. And openly discussing this is where we begin to rectify the past.”

“Back then, I didn’t realize his willingness to remain harmful, that the desire to cause harm was a choice. Each time life presented him with an alternative to protect or hurt, he chose the latter without fail. He showed up intentionally to cause emotional harm, and that was who he was. He was a man who recklessly treated me, and I had no right to doubt his abilities.”

“Men have been packaged by society so well as elusive and mysterious that if you score one for yourself, you are suddenly deemed worthy of respect. This form of advertising has aided men for years, with women placing their best foot forward to present themselves to be found worthy of a man’s approval.”