“In moments of spiritual crisis we naturally fall back upon what worked for us, or seemed to work, heretofore. Sometimes this shows up through the reassertion of our old values in belligerent, testy ways. Regression of any kind is just such a return to old presumptions, often after they have been shown to be insufficient for the complexity of larger questions. The virtue of the old presumptions is that they once worked, or seemed to work, and therein lies if not certainty, then nostalgia for a previous, presumptive security. In our private lives, we frequently fall back upon our old roles.” IfsWayKindHas BeensSometimesMomentsShowsSpiritualLyingValuesFallRolesVirtueSecurityReturnCrisisNostalgiaCertaintyComplexityPrivate LifeFall BackPresumptionInsufficientRegressionSpiritual CrisisOld Values Book:What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life Source: What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life
“One of the most powerful shocks of the Middle Passage is the collapse of our tacit contract with the universe-the assumption that if we act correctly, if we are of good heart and good intentions, things will work out. We assume a reciprocity with the universe. If we do our part, the universe will comply. Many ancient stories, including the Book of Job, painfully reveal the fact that there is no such contract, and everyone who goes through the Middle Passage is made aware of it.” IfsHeartMadeBookFactsStoriesJobsUniversePowerfulMiddleAssumingIntentionIncludingAncientWork OutAssumptionShockMost PowerfulContractsPassagesCollapseGood IntentionsReciprocityGood HeartTacitThings Will Work OutMiddle Passage Book:The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning in Midlife Source: The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning in Midlife
“The capacity for growth depends on one's ability to internalize and to take personal responsibility. If we forever see our life as a problem caused by others, a problem to be 'solved,' then no change will occur.” IfsProblemGrowthAbilityResponsibilityForeverOur LivesDependsCapacityPersonal Responsibility Book:The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning in Midlife Source: The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning in Midlife