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“Even though it inspires some of the world's greatest literature, music, and art, obsessive love is one of the most potent and compelling of tortures and one of the most difficult to overcome -- especially because it feels beyond conscious control. Tormented lovers try the patience even of those who truly love them, because they sufferers do not desire help extricating themselves though they claim to be seeking it; this is an illness from which no one wants to be cured.”

Love Obsession Unrequited Love

Book:The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found

Source: The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found

“The world shrinks to include only two people, only one of whom -- the beloved -- has power. This inequitable distribution naturally breeds resentment and feelings of hopelessness that the dependent person dare not express for fear of alienating the necessary person even more.”

Love Obsession Unrequited Love

Book:The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found

Source: The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found

“Obsessive love is built on a tissue of illusions: that by having sex with someone you can possess that person's soul; that you can transmute past defeats into present triumphs without understanding or mourning; that you make the unloving love you by constancy, uncomplaining availability, and molding yourself into what you thing that person wants.”

Book:The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found

Source: The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found

“He talked about her in a way that only the obsessed do. It was always a pressured monologue, and it was always the same. He had to relate every detail, interpreting and seeking meaning in her every utterance or action, like a fundamentalist minutely analyzing a biblical text.”

Book:The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found

Source: The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found

“Some never escape from the imprisoning conviction that a cold or unattainable lover can be persuaded to become warm or attainable if they only discover the key.”

Love Obsession Unrequired Love

Book:The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found

Source: The Golden Condom: And Other Essays on Love Lost and Found