“My biggest concern with positive affirmations is not so much whether they work or not, but that they reinforce this tyrannical imperative of positive thinking (and self-esteem). In this kingdom of positivity, there is no room for down days. When my friend cannot be positive, will she be even harder on herself? That’s the problem with positive thinking: it’s a plant with shallow roots. We need deep roots to sustain us through prolonged harsh conditions. Hence the insistence on planting self-worth in deep soil, below the shallow layer of all assessments.” Self EsteemPositive ThinkingSelf Worth Book:The Self-Worth Safari: Valuing Your Life and Your Work Source: The Self-Worth Safari: Valuing Your Life and Your Work
“As the foundation of all progress with self-worth is acceptance, we build self-worth by asserting our value, not assessing it. Self-worth is a declaration, not an evaluation. There are no scales, no points, no scores out of a hundred, no preconditions. There is but a single assertion: “Because I’m worth it” or your own equivalent.” Self EsteemSelf ImprovementSelf WorthAssertionYou Are Worthy Book:The Self-Worth Safari: Valuing Your Life and Your Work Source: The Self-Worth Safari: Valuing Your Life and Your Work
“Our relationship with ourselves significantly affects how we interact with other people. Our self-esteem frequently depends on how we feel we are “doing” at relationships. Given that this fluctuates, so does our self-esteem. Intellectually, we may tell ourselves that it shouldn’t, but when have emotions ever obeyed the intellect?” Self EsteemSelf WorthRelationship With Self Book:The Self-Worth Safari: Valuing Your Life and Your Work Source: The Self-Worth Safari: Valuing Your Life and Your Work
“For several decades, we have been slaving for a better reputation with ourselves—better looks, more achievement, keeping fit, optimal work-life balance, not to mention changing the world—but is all this really making us happier?” Self EsteemSelf WorthCosmeticsLife Work Balance Author:John Niland