“We can glut ourselves with how-to-raise children information . . . strive to become more mature and aware but none of this will spare us from the . . . inevitability that some of the time we are going to fail our children. Because there is a big gap between knowing and doing. Because mature, aware people are imperfect too. Or because some current event in our life may so absorb or depress us that when our children need us we cannot come through.” PeopleNeedsMayChildrenBigsKnowingOur LivesFailingEventsInformationOur ChildrenRaisesStriveCurrentsMatureGapsParenthoodImperfectDepressingSparesInevitabilityCurrent EventsKnowing And Doing Author:Judith Viorst
“We grow because the clamorous, permanent presence of our children forces us to put their needs before ours. We grow because our love for our children urges us to change as nothing else in our lives has the power to do. We grow (if we're willing to grow, that is: not every parent is willing) because being a parent helps us stop being a child.” IfsNeedsChildrenHelpingForceGrowsParentOur LivesWillingOur ChildrenPermanentUrgesOur LoveBeing A ParentLove Our Children Author:Judith Viorst
“The need to become a separate self is as urgent as the yearning to merge forever. And as long as we, not our mother, initiate parting, and as long as our mother remains reliably there, it seems possible to risk, and even to revel in, standing alone.” NeedsLongSelfSeemsMotherForeverRiskStandingRemainsYearningUrgentPartingInitiateStanding Alone Book:Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex Source: Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex
“There is a time in our life when we need to strut our stuff and groove on grandiosity, when we need to be viewed as remarkable and rare, when we need to exhibit ourself in front of a mirror that reflects our self-admiration, when we need a parent to function as that mirror.” NeedsSelfStuffParentOur LivesFrontsFunctionMirrorsRemarkableAdmirationExhibitsGroove Book:Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex Source: Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex
