“We lost not only through death, but also by leaving and being left, by changing and letting go and moving on. And our losses include not only our separations and departures from those we love, but our conscious and unconscious losses of romantic dreams, impossible expectations, illusions of freedom and power, illusions of safety -- and the loss of our own younger self, the self that thought it would always be unwrinkled and invulnerable and immortal.” SelfDreamMovingLostLeftLossImpossibleLetting GoIllusionExpectationsConsciousSafetyLeavingSeparationUnconsciousImmortalDepartureThose We LoveLetting Go And Moving OnConscious And UnconsciousYounger SelfIllusion Of Freedom Author:Judith Viorst
“Our ego ideal is precious to us because it repairs a loss of our earlier childhood, the loss of our image of self as perfect and whole, the loss of a major portion of our infantile, limitless, ain't-I-wonderful narcissism which we had to give up in the face of compelling reality. Modified and reshaped into ethical goals and moral standards and a vision of what at our finest we might be, our dream of perfection lives on--our lost narcissism lives on--in our ego ideal.” GivingSelfWholeDreamRealityMightFacesLostGoalLossPerfectMoralVisionGrowing UpWonderfulChildhoodEgoGiving UpMajorsStandardsIdealsPerfectionEthicalPortionsNarcissismCompellingFinestOur DreamsLimitlessInfantile Book:Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex Source: Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex
“We have to divide mother love with our brothers and sisters. Our parents can help us cope with the loss of our dream of absolute love. But they cannot make us believe that we haven't lost it.” BelieveHelpingDreamMotherLostParentLossHavensBrotherAbsolutesDividesBrothers And SistersOur DreamsSiblingRivalryMother LoveSibling RivalryAbsolute Love Book:Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex Source: Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex
“Growing up means letting go of the dearest megalomaniacal dreams of our childhood. Growing up means knowing they can't be fulfilled. Growing up means gaining the wisdom and the skills to get what we want within the limitations imposed by reality - a reality which consists of diminished powers, restricted freedoms and, with the people we love, imperfect connections.” PeopleWantMeanDreamRealityGrowing UpKnowingGrowingChildhoodSkillsLetting GoConnectionsOur ChildrenAgingLimitationImperfectFulfilled Author:Judith Viorst
