“I feel like people think of me as someone who really believes in a "sex as empowerment" philosophy, like Sasha Grey or something, when actually I feel like I'm much more what a lot of liberal feminists would call "sex negative" than most women I know.” PeopleThinkingKnowsFeelsBelievePhilosophySexNegativeEmpowermentFeministGreyThink Of Me Author:Marie Calloway
“I think in certain ways sex work has been romanticized. I can only speak from my experience, but what surprised me about escorting was how boring it mostly is. it seemed like an assembly line process of cleaning my apartment, dressing up, making awkward small talk, having mundane mechanical sex, making more awkward small talk, and then closing the door after them. There's also a lot of frustration and annoyance with it that I feel isn't discussed (a lot of flaky potential clients for instance.)” ThinkingWayFeelsHas BeensI CanCertainSpeakSexProcessLinesDoorsBoringInstanceFrustrationAwkwardApartmentClientsCleaningDressingsClosingMundaneAssemblyDressing UpAnnoyanceSex WorkSmall TalkAssembly LineEscorting Author:Marie Calloway
“Towards the end of it [working as an escort girl] I could feel myself drifting towards a liquor habit and I had a few minor mental breakdowns due to a what I felt like was a constant chipping away at my personhood (guys thinking I would have unprotected sex with them if they just paid me fifty more dollars, for instance) and a few abusive clients.” IfsThinkingFeelsEndsGuyGirlSexFeltHabitPaidConstantDollarsDuesInstanceFiftyMinorsClientsLiquorBreakdownDriftingAbusivePersonhoodChipping AwayMental Breakdown Author:Marie Calloway
“I guess I'm also obligated to note that the experience of sex workers who are not upper/middle class/white probably have much worse conditions than anything that's portrayed commonly in media/what I experienced.” SexWhiteClassMiddleConditionsMediaNotesWorkersMiddle ClassUpper Middle Class Author:Marie Calloway
“Besides the money aspect, I guess I was curious about sex work. In the way that most people are, but also because ever since I was a teen I had read feminist writers like Dworkin and Mackinnon and the way they wrote about sex work had an enormous impact on me. Was it really as horrible as they said?” PeopleWaySaidSexAspectImpactFeministEnormousHorribleCuriousThey SaidSex Work Author:Marie Calloway
