“Anger is a passion, so it makes people feel alive and makes them feel they matter and are in charge of their lives. So people often need to renew their anger a long time after the cause of it has died, because it is a protection against helplessness and emptiness just like howling in the night. And it makes them feel less vulnerable for a little while.” PeopleNeedsFeelsLittlesLongMatterNightPassionCausesAliveLong TimeAngerDiedProtectionVulnerableEmptinessHelplessness Author:Merle Shain
“Perhaps the old view of 'Me breadwinner, you hausfrau' worked for our grandparents, when people obligingly popped off before boring each other to death, but it won't work any longer because we are living too long and divorce is needed today to do what death acomplished more economically before.” PeopleLongTodayViewsNeededBoringDivorceGrandparentBreadwinner Book:Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others Source: Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others
“The dream of romantic love is taken more seriously in North America than it is anywhere else in the world, which is why we believe in fidelity and why we believe in infidelity as well. It is also, of course, what makes our divorce rate as high as it is. Falling in love at first sight and instant gratification are part of the world in which we live, so there are people who believe adamantly in fidelity. They just don't believe in it for long.” PeopleWorldFirstsBelieveWellsLongDreamAmericaRomanceFallCoursesLove IsTakenSightFalling In LoveRateDon't BelieveDivorceInstantRomantic LoveLove At First SightInfidelityGratificationFidelityNorth AmericaInstant GratificationDivorce Rates Author:Merle Shain
“Love is short, forgetting is long, and understanding longer still.” LongStillsUnderstandingForgetLove Is Author:Merle Shain
“Until you divest yourself of the notion that you are a collection of needs, an empty vessel that someone else must fill up, there will be no safe place to harbor yourself, no safe shore to reach. As long as you think mostly of getting, you will have nothing real to give.” ThinkingNeedsGivingLongRealSafeEmptyNotionCollectionsShoreVesselHarborsSafe PlacesEmpty Vessels Author:Merle Shain
