“When a parent interferes with a child's anger response in these heavy-handed ways [ridiculing, ignoring, isolating, goading, punishing, distracting, hitting, joking], the anger increases and is redirected at the parent: now the parent is the one who's violating the child's sense of well-being by interfering with a natural and necessary outlet of emotion. Most parents stifle this secondary outburst of anger, too, only this time with more force. [...] Instead of allowing the anger to flow through the child's system the first time it's expressed, the parent unwittingly fans the anger, then dams it up. The anger becomes trapped in the little girl's stomach, muscles, and jaw, and becomes an enduring wound.” AngerParentingParenting AdviceParenting TipsHealing The Emotional SelfMind Body ConnectionParenting 101Emotional DevelopmentDealing With AngerAnger Repression Book:The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life Source: The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life
“If the parent represses the girl's anger not just once but over and over again, a deeper injury occurs: the girl will eventually dismantle her anger response. Ultimately, it's safer for her to cut off a part of her being than to battle the person on whom her life depends.” AngerHealing The Emotional SelfDealing With AngerAnger Repression Book:The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life Source: The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life