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“The cycle of trauma bonding with a narcissist or psychopath is biochemically addictive due to the brutal highs and lows and the unpredictable nature of the chaotic relationship. When pleasurable moments are few and far in between incidents of cruelty, this hot and cold behavior is known in behavioral psychology as intermittent reinforcement. The rare reward of kindness, affection, and validation is unpredictable causing dopamine to flow more readily in the brain than predictably stable relationships. This toxic love creates an addiction to the dopamine rush that has little to do with the merits of the person or the quality of the relationship. Research reveals that the brains of people reeling from tumultuous romantic relationships and heartbreak tend to show heightened activity in the same reward and craving related regions of the brain as in the brains of those addicted to cocaine and other drugs. This "withdrawal" effect is potent in romantic adversity and is part of the reason so many struggle to leave and heal from toxic relationships.”

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Book:Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths: Stop the Cycle of Manipulation, Exploitation, and Abuse in Your Romantic Relationships
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“Stop outsourcing your emotional fulfillment to a man exhibiting hot and cold behavior. The most powerful women in the dating world know that committing to a relationship is a liability, not an automatic benefit. They know choosing the wrong partner means wasting their time building up a toxic man only for him to go cosplay emotional maturity for someone else. Women with emotional mastery invest in themselves and don’t overexplain their high standards. They speak with their actions and detach.”

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Book:Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse
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