“The worst problems for children stem from parental conflict, before, during, and after divorce or within marriage.” ChildrenProblemWorstConflictDivorceStemParentalAfter Divorce Author:Stephanie Coontz
“There is no going back to a time when most women will feel compelled to enter or stay in a bad marriage just for economic security or social respectability. So today, the best way to get women once more interested in getting married and having children is for men to accept women's new insistence on equality. This is, I think, why educated women in America, are now more pro - marriage and more disapproving of divorce than other groups of women who have less experience with egalitarian partners or less clout in getting their needs met in relationships.” ThinkingMenChildrenTodayAcceptingEconomicSecurityMarriedDivorceEducatedGetting MarriedHaving ChildrenInsistenceRespectabilityBad Marriage Author:Stephanie Coontz
“Increasingly, men are realizing exactly that - that having an educated, economically independent partner reduces the pressure on them to be the sole provider. Many men are also beginning to understand that participating in housework and childcare can be rewarding. Women with higher education and/or earnings are so much less likely than other women to divorce, that by age 40, they are more likely to be married than any other group of women.” MenAgeRealizingMarriedIndependentDivorceEducatedBeing MarriedHouseworkHigher Education Author:Stephanie Coontz
“Hollywood overstates both the romance of marriage and the prevalence of divorce. Celebrities have divorce rates that are atypical and higher than most couples. I suspect that in celebrity marriages, there are huge egos on both sides and they do seem to encourage unrealistic expectations about falling in love. The problem with our romantic culture is that you can love someone you don't respect and the marriage can run out of gas with that formula. Respect is essential - not just respecting your partner but being sure your partner equally respects you.” ProblemRunningRomanceFallCultureCoupleEgoExpectationsFalling In LoveRateDivorceGas Author:Stephanie Coontz
“I think that divorce is a vital escape hatch for people stuck in marriage and it is not a sentence of doom either for adults or children. The community should develop better support systems for saving or restoring potentially healthy marriages.But we should also help people who decide to divorce have healthier partings.” PeopleThinkingChildrenHelpingCommunitySupportHealthyDivorceStuckDoomParting Author:Stephanie Coontz
“When parents are educated about how not to involve children in their conflicts and co-parent amicably, a lot of the ill effects of divorce can be alleviated. Divorce is always painful. But kids in a high-conflict marriage or low-conflict but contemptuous ones are often better off in the long run when the parent can disengage.” ChildrenLongRunningKidsParentConflictIllPainfulDivorceEducated Author:Stephanie Coontz
