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“There is no going back to a time when most women will feel compelled to enter or stay in a bad marriage just for economic security or social respectability. So today, the best way to get women once more interested in getting married and having children is for men to accept women's new insistence on equality. This is, I think, why educated women in America, are now more pro - marriage and more disapproving of divorce than other groups of women who have less experience with egalitarian partners or less clout in getting their needs met in relationships.”

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Stephanie Coontz
Stephanie Coontz

Stephanie Coontz is an American historian and author specializing in the history of gender, marriage, and the family. Her work explores the evolution of gender roles in modern society and how these changes affect individuals and society. more

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