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“Some of my Black sistas don’t know any better, so I’d like to give them some enlightening food-for-thought. Many of them are in awe when it comes to Michelle Obama. They admire and celebrate her intelligence and beauty. For many Black women, she’s a positive and powerful role model. Our former First Lady is phenomenal to say the least! She’s a lawyer, writer, and she fearlessly wears many other hats with integrity and grace. But, here’s what I’d like to point out: If you can admire and celebrate her, why can’t you do the same for YOUR family and friends? Why is it that when people that you personally know obtain degrees, start a successful business, buy a home, are financially secure, happily married, etc… Here you go hatin’ on them. Why can’t you genuinely be happy for them and share in their greatness? I encourage you to celebrate the Black women around you, too!”

“Dear Black Girls… Don’t get caught up in following the crowd. Everybody wants to fit in, but don’t degrade yourself trying to be a part of the in-crowd. Getting high, drunk, and being promiscuous is NOT the way to go. Peer pressure is VERY real, but the choices that you make can literally ruin your life. Choose your friends wisely! Making the wrong choices can lead you down a path of destruction, hurt, pain, and lost dreams. Don’t be so easily influenced… Value who you are and have some self-respect!”

“Black Girls… If you ever find yourself being the only black girl in the room, hold your head up high and know with 100% confidence that you belong there, too! There’s no need for you to feel intimidated. You are GREATNESS… You are EXQUISITE… You are POWERFUL, and you ROCK.”

“Black Girls… I dare you to take your education seriously! I dare you to stay in school and get your high school diploma. I dare you to go to college and obtain a degree. I dare you to believe in your ideas and become an entrepreneur or start your own business. I dare you to create multiple streams of income for yourself. I dare you to read, learn, and educate yourself. I dare you to save and invest your money wisely. It’s important to invest in YOU. You’re NOT too young to walk into your GREATNESS. I dare you to succeed without apology!”

“Mentally, emotionally, verbally, and physically abusing your children is NOT okay. Good parenting does NOT consist of bullying your children, belittling your children, manipulating your children, beating your children, or cursing at your children. I encourage you to create a safe, loving, healthy, and nurturing environment for your children.”

“Dear Black Communities… Our Black Boys Matter! I encourage y’all to invest in our black male youth by inspiring, celebrating, and empowering them. They need our wisdom, love, support, encouragement, direction, and positive examples to follow. Let’s support and encourage our young Kings in becoming confident, knowledgeable, strong, well-rounded, and powerful black men with integrity. It’s imperative that we set them up for greatness early on in life. Let’s change the narrative of raising broken black males! Let’s raise our black boys to be black men that ROCK in every area of their life. It’s up to us to prepare, teach, educate, and empower them!”

“I encourage women and girls all over the world to stop mentally abusing themselves by comparing themselves to others and negative self-talk… To love and accept themselves for who THEY are because that’s true woman and girl power… There’s no greater love than the unconditional love that you give to yourself… Female power starts within!”

“Dear Black Women… I encourage you to be VERY mindful of who you choose to have your children with. Too many of our black children are growing up without their fathers. Why would you have sex with a man that you know isn’t any good? Why give up your loving to a man that has kids with this woman and that woman? Why have kids with a man that stays in and out of jail/prison? Why have kids with a man that doesn’t work? Why have kids with a man that’s clearly NOT father material? Think before you have unprotected sex… You can’t afford NOT to. Our kids deserve better… Choose wisely!”

“Dear Black Fathers and Black Mothers… Let's give our children gifts that TRULY matter. The gift of being a positive role model. The gift of showing them what genuine love looks and feels like. The gift of spending quality time with them. The gift of making them feel wanted and loved. The gift of open and honest communication. The gift of hearing and listening to them. The gift of guidance, support, and friendship. Let’s set them up for greatness by investing in them early on in life by preparing, teaching, educating, and empowering them!”

“In the Black community, we love to say YOU ONLY GET ONE MAMA, but at what cost? If your mom is toxic, when do you say enough is enough? If she’s the reason for your TRAUMA, then what? If you’ve tried over and over to have a respectful and healthy relationship with her, and she STILL keeps up drama, at what point do you stop allowing her to negatively disrupt your life and steal your peace? I encourage Black families to stop making excuses for abuse in any form. A mother shouldn’t be your source of dysfunction, pain, hurt, and disappointment. She should be your source of love, support, encouragement, and guidance. Let’s NOT normalize her foul behavior. You and your mental health matters!”

“Dear Young Black Males… Juvenile Hall, Jail, and Prison are overflowing with young Black youth that look just like you. You’ve got to be willing to change the narrative of your life! Respect yourself by NOT going down that dead-end road. Enough of the countless excuses! Your life matters, right? So, dare to go against the norm, and do the RIGHT things. If not, you’ll find your life disrupted, destroyed, or ended. Is incarceration or death really worth it? Think it through… THINK IT THOUGH. The choice is yours young Kings, choose wisely! Consequences are VERY real.”

“Racism, hate, and bigotry are EVIL and WICKED no matter how you try to rationalize it. I couldn’t imagine living my life with this crap in my heart. I love building new relationships and I enjoy learning about different cultures! If people would change their thinking and open up their hearts, they’d be amazed at the beautiful relationships that they could have. And, for the record, I couldn’t imagine ALL of my friends being black. There are too many amazing people from different backgrounds that I still have yet to meet. NO WAY would I limit my relationships based on race, absolutely not! I am free to like and love who I want to and I won’t allow anybody to persuade me with their opinions. I have my own mind! I’m my own person! I refuse to dislike and/or hate another race ‘just because!’ I am Stephanie Lahart: BOLD. BRAVE. STRONG.”

“Women Empowerment Reminder of The Day. Always respect yourself as a woman. You attract what you are, so be very mindful of how you’re representing yourself. If you want respect, you must first learn how to respect yourself, first. Attracting negative attention is never a good thing. Be a woman of substance! Be a woman that both women and men respect, admire, and look up to. Don’t disrespect yourself by lowering your standards and accepting just anything that comes your way. It’s okay to be single! If you want a relationship of substance, you can’t keep entertaining people and things that mean you no good. Think about it! It’s all up to you.”

“I don’t want to be the smartest person in my circle. I don’t want to be the most creative person in my circle. I don’t want to be the most knowledgeable person in my circle. I don’t want to be the only one that’s NOT afraid to use their voice in my circle. I don’t want to be the only one that’s fearless and unapologetic in my circle. I, personally, am not intimidated by another person’s gifts, talents, or skills. I love to build genuine relationships with like-minded people that inspire, motivate, and empower me, too!”

“I’m an Exquisite Black Queen! I like, love, and celebrate myself. I don’t fit society’s beauty standards, but I’m beautiful to me. I know my worth and I respect who I am as a woman. I’ve got beauty on the inside and that makes me empowered and powerful. I’m fearless and comfortable in my own skin. I’ve got flaws, but I’m still confident! This Queen right here is flawed yet phenomenal, valuable and unique!”

“There’s a destructive power in unforgiveness and unforgiveness controls you in a negative way. It’s time to let it all go! You become strong when you genuinely forgive. You become empowered when you genuinely forgive. You gain back your inner peace when you genuinely forgive. You release stress, bitterness, and anger when you genuinely forgive. But most importantly, you’re able to live your best life when you genuinely forgive. Give yourself permission to live life free of toxic thoughts, feelings, and energy. Forgive!”