“The problem with the supposed “orgasm gap’ is it assumes that climaxing is the purpose of sexual pleasure, when it’s clearly not. Approaching sex with the ambition of getting your rocks off is a selfish way to enter fuckery – sex doesn’t have to end because one partner orgasms. Placing limitations on sexual intimacy is damaging. If one or both partners don’t pass the finishing line, you haven’t failed. Sex is not a race or a competition, yet the orgasm gap tries to make it so.” SexFemale OrgasmOrgasm Gap Author:Vanessa de Largie
“One often reads of elite athletes for whom their chosen sport is their life. Not simply a livelihood or a hobby, but an obsession that informs every aspect of their mental, physical, emotional and philosophical being. I am similarly consumed with sex. Far from just the act of sex, it is its possibilities that dictate my thoughts and motives. Sex is the distillation of my own essence, it is the prism through which my life is processed.” SexTraumaSexualitySexual Trauma Author:Vanessa de Largie