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Common courtesy: in which Miss Manners solves the problem that baffled Mr. Jefferson

Written by the renowned etiquette expert, this book provides a comprehensive guide to proper behavior in various social contexts. It addresses common dilemmas and challenges faced in everyday life, drawing on historical anecdotes and the wit of Miss Manners to offer insightful solutions. more

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Judith Martin
Judith Martin

Judith Martin, known by her pen name Miss Manners, is an American journalist and columnist renowned for her insights into etiquette and social norms. Born on September 13, 1938, she has been writing a etiquette column for The New York Times since 1962, remaining a prominent figure in the public eye to this day. more

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