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“Notice how shame, consciously or unconsciously, pulls us away from risk, ratifies our negative sense of worth through self-sabotage, or compels us into frenetic efforts at overcompensation, grandiosity, or yearning for validation that never comes. How much each of us needs to remember theologian Paul Tillich’s definition of grace as accepting the fact that we are accepted, despite the fact that we are unacceptable.”

Quote by James Hollis

Book:What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life
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What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life

This book explores the principles of living a more thoughtful and intentional life, focusing on the importance of values and purpose. more

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James Hollis

James Hollis is a renowned author, born in 1940. His works primarily focus on psychology, philosophy, and spirituality, enjoying great popularity among readers. more

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