“Notice how shame, consciously or unconsciously, pulls us away from risk, ratifies our negative sense of worth through self-sabotage, or compels us into frenetic efforts at overcompensation, grandiosity, or yearning for validation that never comes. How much each of us needs to remember theologian Paul Tillich’s definition of grace as accepting the fact that we are accepted, despite the fact that we are unacceptable.” GraceShameSelf SabotageGrandiosityOvercompensationAccepted Despite Unacceptable Book:What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life Source: What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life