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“Because a woman can live in one of two houses--- fear or love. It is impossible to live in both at the same time.”

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Book:Honor
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Honor

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Thrity Umrigar
Thrity Umrigar

Thrity Umrigar is an Indian-American journalist and author. Born in India in 1961, she later moved to the United States. Umrigar is known for her profound insights into multiculturalism and her focus on social issues, often addressing topics such as immigration, race, and gender in her work. more

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