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“Other people--grandparents, sisters and brothers, the mother's best friend, the next-door neighbor--get to be familiar to the baby. If the mother communicates her trust in these people, the baby will regard them as delicious novelties. Anybody the mother trusts whom the baby sees often enough partakes a bit of the presence of the mother.”

Quote by Louise J. Kaplan

Book:Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual

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Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual

Oneness and Separateness: From Infant to Individual delves into the psychological and social aspects of human development, focusing on the transition from a state of unity to the formation of individuality. The book examines how individuals navigate the complexities of relationships and self-identity throughout their lives. more

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Louise J. Kaplan

Louise J. Kaplan was an American author born on November 18, 1929, and passed away on January 9, 2012. She was known for her diverse body of work, which included novels, poetry, and essays. more

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