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“Midlife dynamically, for both straight and gay males, is often challenging as we face the reality that many of the dreams we had for our lives might not become a reality and unresolved conflicts come to the surface. For us to successfully transition in to the next phase of our lives we must find reconciliation of these issues. And for the gay male there is a sense that the gay self we have tried to keep in the closet or so many years begins to scream out. "Time is running out. When do I get to live?" You can't ignore that voice in the end, you can try and suppress it, and you can try and deny it, you can try and silence it by filling your life with other noises and diverting attention ......but that voice still exists. "Will my entire life be a lie?”

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A Life of Unlearning - a journey to find the truth

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Anthony Venn-Brown
Anthony Venn-Brown

Anthony Venn-Brown is an Australian advocate active in the fields of religion and human rights. Born on March 13, 1951, the details of his career and biography are limited at this time. more

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