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“Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect world, or even with a little more care in this very imperfect one) both partners might have found more suitable mates. But the 'real soul-mate' is the one you are actually married to. You really do very little choosing: life and circumstance do most of it (though if there is a God these must be His instruments, or His appearances). It is notorious that in fact happy marriages are more common where the 'choosing' by the young persons is even more limited, by parental or family authority, as long as there is a social ethic of plain unromantic responsibility and conjugal fidelity. … In this fallen world we have as our only guides, prudence, wisdom (rare in youth, too late in age), a clean heart, and fidelity of will. Letter 43 From a letter to Michael Tolkien”

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Book:The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien
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The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien

This book includes letters written by J.R.R. Tolkien, covering a wide range of topics including his writing process, personal life, and thoughts on various subjects. more

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Humphrey Carpenter
Humphrey Carpenter

Humphrey Carpenter was a renowned British biographer, recognized for his extensive work on the lives of musicians and writers. Born on April 12, 1946, and passing away on January 4, 2005, Carpenter's biographies were known for their depth and thoroughness, offering comprehensive insights into the personal and professional lives of his subjects. more

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