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Quote by John Bowlby

“What cannot be communicated to the [m]other cannot be communicated to the self.”

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John Bowlby, born on February 26, 1907 and died on September 2, 1990, was a renowned psychologist from the United Kingdom. His research focused on child development, parent-child relationships, and attachment theory, which had a profound impact on modern psychology. more

“For many people, the shock of sexual abuse pales before the shock of this mother’s statement, “I wish the fuck I never had her.” So thoroughly is motherhood sentimentalized that the mother who wishes to be rid of her child is considered a monster. In reality, women have always greeted the burden of motherhood ambivalently, even in the best of circumstances, and many women bear children involuntarily. But the approbrium which attaches to any woman who willing gives up her child is so great that some mothers will keep and mistreat their children rather than admit that they cannot care for them. Sometimes, the revelation of maternal neglect constitutes a plea for outside intervention, signaling the fact that a mother wants to be relieved of the duty to care for her child.”

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Book:Father-Daughter Incest

Source: Father-Daughter Incest

“The confusion, that one so young - me it seems, because I remember - should be so damaged, that no one looked out for me or cared. And even now, I grin and mock myself out of fear. But I hold the truth aloft, a golden torch, sacred, because no one else dares to.”

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Book:My Fault

Source: My Fault

“Our society has a twisted sense of motherhood. They believe that all mothers are kind, tender, gentle, and loving. Unfortunately, not all women who give birth to children are a good parent. Not all women are fit to be mothers.”

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Book:Soul Rescue: How to Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse & Heal Trauma

Source: Soul Rescue: How to Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse & Heal Trauma