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“Maturity involves being honest and true to oneself, making decisions based on a conscious internal process, assuming responsibility for one's decisions, having healthy relationships with others and developing one's own true gifts. It involves thinking about one's environment and deciding what one will and won't accept.”

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Mary Pipher
Mary Pipher

Mary Pipher is an American psychologist known for her in-depth research on adolescent mental health. Her books, such as 'Reviving Ophelia' and 'Reading Mother Goose', delve into the psychological world and growth experiences of adolescents. more

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“Adolescents' immature thinking makes it difficult for them to process the divorce. They tend to see things in black-and-white terms and have trouble putting events into perspective. They are absolute in their judgments and expect perfection in parents. They are likely to be self-conscious about their parent's failures and critical of their every move. They have the expectations that parents will keep them safe and happy and are shocked by the broken covenant. Adolescents are unforgiving.”

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