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The Insanity of Normality: Toward Understanding Human Destructiveness

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Arno Gruen
Arno Gruen

Arno Gruen was a renowned psychologist, born on May 26, 1923, and passed away on October 20, 2015. He had a profound impact on the field of psychotherapy with his extensive research and practical experience, particularly known for his unique insights into the therapeutic relationship between psychotherapists and patients. more

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