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“There is one thing you and I as parents cannot do, not do we want to do if we really think about it, and that's control our children's will--that spirit that lets them be themselves apart from you and me. They are not ours to possess, control, manipulate, or even to make mind.”

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Barbara Coloroso
Barbara Coloroso

Barbara Coloroso is a renowned author and educator, known for her works in the field of children and youth education. Her writings cover a range of topics from parent-child relationships, educational methods, to adolescent behavior, aiming to help parents and educators better understand and support the younger generation. more

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